I know it has been a while, I guess I have just been living my best life, but this topic just keeps showing up so I would be remiss not to have a full blow bitch session on it. The D word, divorce, it seems like everyone is doing, right? Things don’t work out so just get divorced. He didn’t live up to his full potential just get a divorce, or maybe you have now decided you bat for the other team, well guess what just sign on the dotted line and you can live a whole new life. REBOOT!

Does any of this sound familiar? Maybe your parents had multiple marriages that you watched as you were growing up, so you just don’t know any better it was the norm. Maybe you have lost faith in the whole idea of marriage after watching such a messy divorce, or several if your parents were a real shit show, which seems to happen all the days. Now you are all fucked up about what a healthy relationship even looks like. I assure you marriage takes work, and it is not all fun. That is why those wedding vows state “in sickness and in health, for better or worse.” They really want you to think about that, it is forever, through thick and thin. Not just pop on a pretty dress and have a big party for your Instagram page and social media; that is not what it is about at all. Not so you can have a baby and then “turn gay” (as if) and leave your partner; because that is actually cheaper than adoption, and then you can claim you found your “true self”. Believe me I have seen all of these scenarios play out from close friends, neighbors and acquaintances; they have grown apart or just never really knew the other person. How do you never really know the person you are going to marry?

Honestly ladies, if he is pretty and claims to be pan sexual, a sexual or fluid; likes clothes as much as you do; one day you might just find him trying on all your stuff in full face make up. As he zips up your Chanel boots it might just be the last straw and not so cute anymore. I mean let’s be honest the signs are there; so don’t be stupid or surprised you are the dumb cunt that let it happen. I personally am not the sharing type, so that would never fly in my marriage and was never even a worry, my man doesn’t have interest any dick but his own, and as far are the other sluts that have thrown their sad sacks at him he doesn’t want your STD ridden cunts either.

While we on the topic of throuples, or even the idea of an open marriage all of this things are really not a good idea. I have watched so many marriages end while trying to “spice them up”. If you need to spice it up by adding another person to your bed, it is already over. The minute you add the extra you are done, just know that. There are just too many participants and feelings will get hurt, jealousy ensues, and you will never come back from those things. You can not undo things that are done, and no amount of forgiveness will ever re gain the trust that was broken.

Now that being said once you have divorced and remarried a couple of times it is already pointless. Now it is too easy to just walk away or even be invested in a new relationship. It is just relationship for now, until you get bored with them and something better comes along, because there is already a history of this type of behavior. For a woman especially that has had more than 2-3 husbands sets that tone of being almost something like a black widow or gold digger, and you would question her motives. Men honestly enjoy the thrill of a mistress or sidepiece more, and really just prefer to cheat, I think it makes them feel more virile. They really do not want the commitment to begin with, much less several women or even bitchy men that they would have to keep satisfied. It’s just more bills, more money, more expense, more responsibility, etc.

It is one thing if a young woman is widowed due a husband lost in the line of duty, which is tragic. However, when you see a pattern of she married a gay man, she married a man that didn’t want children and then did with someone else, she married a man that drank too much and was abusive, these are all signs of a woman that probably did not value herself enough to find a man that would treat her with respect. Now she settled for the next best option of a meal ticket. Using their bodies to attract these men, which is always the wrong type of men to begin with, I mean you might as well be a stripper or escort. Add into the mix if they have kids from a previous marriage, that are watching this behavior, it just perpetrates this a societal norm, heaven forbid they be girls, now you are just raising little gold diggers and whores. Making it okay to have multiple divorces, multiple homes, bonus kids, step parents, etc, etc. Raise a new generation of women with lack of self esteem, confidence, self value or even a proper moral compass. Don’t get me started on the number cases where the step daughter are molested by the step fathers, those numbers are staggering; and the mothers have placed them into these situations.

Honestly it really makes me think that people as a whole are just so weak. Living only for what they want, quick desire or lust. They just file for divorce verses working through all of the tough stuff. Now in cases of physical abuse and assault, I can understand, but again it all stems back to bad choices. Those situations are probably never going to change, and fleeing is usually best for the kid and mothers. As far as drug and alcohol abuse, it was probably always there; or it is how you met in the first place so it not any surprise. You both made bad choices and are weak, go to Betty Ford get clean and work it out. Cheating, ask yourself why? What caused them to step out? Are you not feeling loved at home? Usually it is always an outside influence. Another couple, and bad influence “friend” and why because misery loves company my friend. Their marriage probably sucks too might as well take yours down in flames too.

It is the same reason everyone wants you to have children, and says it is the best thing they did with their lives- total bullshit. Kids can grow up and be total cunts. I mean after all you did raise them, so you are to blame. I have a friend that is actually honest and says well 2 out 3 is not bad (one is in prison). Hell sometimes they are why you end up divorced, you want more or think you do, hormones are a total bitch. Really you probably should just quit while you are ahead, they are just going to stay in your basement and play video games until you die. Which good news might be earlier than you plan because you are still supporting those little useless shits too, so you are never going to retire, just die in your sleep, after paying all your child support for that last baby you had when you were 50 in your fourth, fifth or sixth marriage just to keep the woman that is 30 years younger than you happy.

MUSING: Food for thought: Broken People that Marry Broken People= Fucked Up Marriages, Divorced People that Marry Other Divorced People= Fucked Up Marriages. Maybe if Broken People or Divorced People Marry people that came happy homes that have not been married they might have a chance for a working marriage with a strong partner?

I Do? Do I ? Diddy Dum Diddy Do …..

Veronica J.

P.S. Did you get the Coldplay tickets? Can’t wait to go!