Today I just want to muse about how mean girls are, and women do not really get any better to be honest. I am not sure why females are like this, but they are and it really blows my mind. Why is it that as woman we have spent a life time batting for voting right, equal rights and everything else then we have to cut down our own sisters? You see all these quotes like “Find your Tribe” or “I don’t have to unscrew anyone’s light bulb to shine” but yet they all do!

I remember as a small child in elementary school, constantly being teased by girls. My favorite story is about not wearing the hottest designer jeans, which at the time was Jordache; which nobody has ever heard of now. My mother was so pissed about me coming home crying that day, she went out and bought me ALL the designer jeans, one for every day of the week. I had Jordache, Gloria Vanderbilt, Guess, Calvin Klein light and dark wash. Plus not one, but 2 Swatch watches and 2 Members Only jackets, she really went a little over board. I buried those bitches in fashion for the rest of year, because back then for me, it was never about fashion, I just wore what I liked. However, you teach me a new game I am going to win, and I never cried about jeans again. Those bitches never wanted to lift up my shirt to look at the tag on jeans again, although I was more than happy to show them, since I had the best of the best.

That was just one example of how I was bullied first, and I learned very early how to play the game back. When in all honesty it was really was not about that for me. However I learned real quick that was how the real world worked. Still as a grown woman, I still see women using the same tactics with each other, and it truly sickens me to my core. Sure we can all throw money at anything, and the biggest bank account wins; or you can just run yourself right into irreversible debt, which is maybe what you all deserve to be honest. Pull a second mortgage to get that big pool, new fancy car and go on those amazing trips; I assure mine are are all paid for and debt is never a worry I learned that a long time ago.

I was recently at a round table social group filled with what was suppose to a group of neighborhood friends, but you could see the fake forced smiles among the ladies. Everyone trying to get along but then a snarky comment made with an undertone that would not sit just right on the ears let you know, she was a bitch in waiting, not a friend at all. Ironically I was the unknown outsider of this group where the ladies supposed were raising the kids together, celebrating 1st birthday together, but there was already an unexplained underlying hatred they had for each other. Did some get a new car? Was there a recent summer vacation weaved full of jealousy? A furniture delivery truck to set a new seasonal stage? I was just so intrigued like the meme of Micheal Jackson eating popcorn, I just could not quit watching this social aquarium at feeding time, thank God I could leave and go home at the end of the event.

The worst take down I see is the gossip mill, and the worst ones are the ladies church groups. You would think those Godly bitches would be better but they are not. This has always been a long running joke in my family about the ladies getting “saved for the day” so they run up a tally for tomorrow, but seriously the absolute worst discussions happen at either at bible study or book clubs and those bitches ain’t reading either….. Let me fill you in, these “ladies” are not reading any books, nor following any commandments; however they will tell you who is sleeping with who, who, fell off the wagon and where to find all the closet gays that are married but hooking up with the bro next door you do not know about and or you might even be married to (shocker).

In my experience most of this is all deflection, since they are usually the ones to find themselves in the hot seats, as I hear all of the rumblings they speak only to find they have husbands in AA, or messy divorces on the down low from closet infidelities. Watch out for those black wedding bands, which are not just a trend, especially when they get switched to the middle fingers ladies. Not the moral fiber you would hope for in the church must say, but those are the “new teachings” in that “open worship” we celebrate today. I guess we can just rewrite that scripture again, that we have already done thousands of times already, right? Do on to others right? Just do it first.

Mean girls, I wish we could just get past it, and be nice to each other and support one another, but I am not sure we can as it is in our DNA. Why do we paint such an awful picture of others, is it just to make ourselves look better? I was told a long time ago “There can only be one parade queen, because if we are all queens on the float who waves to us from the crowd?” We all can not be on the parade float, so now we all fight like hell to be the best so we can be on the parade float. Which makes girls mean. Top of the pyramid, date the quarterback, prom queen that is just high school. Move forward into college, careers and corporate ladders it only gets worse.

Really as women we should all celebrate ourselves, which we do publicly when others are watching, but then privately we consort to tear down and destroy women that are truly happy, because what I have really noticed is that the number one bond is misery loves company. As long as you are not too happy, and have drama and turmoil you can float on the “pity ticket”; which is where the mean girls over look you because “bless your heart, look at all the disadvantages you have going on in your life”. Literally these bitches will sit around and try to tell the worst sob stories to gain that pity vote, so they don’t end up in the cross hairs for the week, sad but true. I have known some that fake serious illnesses or abuse just to gain pity, which for me is just a fast pass to hell. Especially when there are so many with these very affiliations trying to grow beyond the baggage and not let it define them.

I have run across a lot of mean girls in my day, and I am sure I have even been someones mean girl, it is just the way of the world. I would like to think that I am better than that, but I know deep down inside that I have told people to fuck off when I need too to protect my own heart; which would probably make me a mean girl. I will say that I do not normally enjoy being mean to people, unless they have pushed me into a place where I have to protect my heart, then all bets are off.

Cheers Bitches,

Veronica J.